Ok so this whole love thing totally sucks. Ive been fortunate enough to make to make it to 28 years of age without ever falling in love, and then bam out of nowhere I get sucker punched, and I mean sucker punched. Cos its not like I was looking for it, oh no, I wasnt, I was quite happy trucking on by myself. And the thing is that I think that he did have the same feeling for me, he just couldnt make up his bloody mind. First, I get dropped for a better offer and then second time round, he cant make time for me. For fuck sake, make up your fucking mind! So in the end, I had to make it up for him.
Now, I have always been cynical, a plus in my opinion. Ive never understood why girls chase this whole love thing like its the holy grail. And now that Ive felt it, Im even more baffled as to why anyone would want this, I mean seriously? You loose all rational thought, you have no control over your bloody emotions, your time is completely occupied thinking about the object of your affection, a total loss of control, and then what happens? You get your heart broken!!! Now I accept that maybe I am a control freak, and maybe I am emotionally retarded, but whats wrong with that? Do we all have to conform to the Bridget Jones school of thought that the only successful women are the women who have a man?
Its total bollox, why should I have to give up my sense of self just to be viewed as normal, why? My friends have each at one stage or another, told me that once I meet the right man Ill feel differently, yeah, well news flash, Ive meet him. And it didnt work out, twice, and this whole love thing sucks.
So, its time I think for chicks like me to stand up and say, you know what? I actually dont need a man, I dont need a relationship to feel whole, I have a plan for my life and Im quite happy with it. And Im fucking tired having to apologise for this, and be called things like: bitch, lesbian, cynical, tight, frigid, slut, whore just because I either want a one night stand or I dont want to sleep with someone.
So, Bridget Jones can fuck off, as can Ally McBeal and Carrie Bradshaw and every female character in Friends, and any other bloody TV role model that currently give young women the idea that the only way to feel complete is to get a man. Its not true, there is only one way to feel complete:
GET SOME SELF ESTEEM!!!!!
Tuesday, December 20, 2005
Why do men lie?
Seriously, why? Any bloody answers to this would be great, believe me! Because I don’t understand how men think. I really don’t. Any and all help would be much appreciated.
You know to any guys that read this, here’s a tip for the top: Stop lying to women!
The only reason that women get pissed off with you is if you lie to them. If you are up front with someone and they have all the facts to make a decision then you know what, it’s their decision. If all you want is a one night stand, be honest. If the woman wants more and you’ve been up front and told her that you just want a one night shag, if she goes to bed with you, great, then she can’t be pissed off if you don’t call (and if she is pissed off, well tough shit, you told the truth). If she doesn’t sleep with you, then you’ve saved yourself a whole mess of crap that you don’t need anyway.
And words have consequence. So don’t flippantly use the “l word” cos you know what goes around comes around. And some day, you’ll get lied to and get your heart broken. And it’s not just words that cause the lie, oh no, cos your mouth can say one thing and then your actions say another.
I’ve read loads of blogs on men’s pages where they’re bitching that women are hard work and women are hard to please and that you can’t talk to women anymore.
Want to know why? Because there is no such fucking thing left as a gentleman. None. I was talking to a guy out on Saturday night. Having the craic, I didn’t fancy him, but he was nice and I was chatting away. So he goes in for the kill, and when I say no, all of a sudden I’m a fucking bitch. Why? Because I talked to him but didn’t want to fuck him?
I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t disappointed me.
Am I bitter, you know what, I’ve bought a ticket for the train, I’m sitting comfortably in the carriage but I’m not sure it’s pulled out of the station yet. Must go prod the driver.
You know to any guys that read this, here’s a tip for the top: Stop lying to women!
The only reason that women get pissed off with you is if you lie to them. If you are up front with someone and they have all the facts to make a decision then you know what, it’s their decision. If all you want is a one night stand, be honest. If the woman wants more and you’ve been up front and told her that you just want a one night shag, if she goes to bed with you, great, then she can’t be pissed off if you don’t call (and if she is pissed off, well tough shit, you told the truth). If she doesn’t sleep with you, then you’ve saved yourself a whole mess of crap that you don’t need anyway.
And words have consequence. So don’t flippantly use the “l word” cos you know what goes around comes around. And some day, you’ll get lied to and get your heart broken. And it’s not just words that cause the lie, oh no, cos your mouth can say one thing and then your actions say another.
I’ve read loads of blogs on men’s pages where they’re bitching that women are hard work and women are hard to please and that you can’t talk to women anymore.
Want to know why? Because there is no such fucking thing left as a gentleman. None. I was talking to a guy out on Saturday night. Having the craic, I didn’t fancy him, but he was nice and I was chatting away. So he goes in for the kill, and when I say no, all of a sudden I’m a fucking bitch. Why? Because I talked to him but didn’t want to fuck him?
I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t disappointed me.
Am I bitter, you know what, I’ve bought a ticket for the train, I’m sitting comfortably in the carriage but I’m not sure it’s pulled out of the station yet. Must go prod the driver.
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